How to Master Your Mood and Relationships…
By Solvita Bennett
“We don’t receive wisdom; we must discover it for ourselves after a journey that no one can take for us or spare us.”
~Marcel Proust~
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… We all know how hard it is to control our emotions when we are children; however have you noticed that some of those children habits we bring with us even when we grow up?
I’m sure you could tell many stories about ‘moody people’ and it might be that it is also a challenge for you my friend to be content, confident and calm no matter what.
… In today’s article I will reveal to you 3 Secret Keys to become a master of your mood – no matter what.
…. When we don’t work on our mood and emotions and let them run wild, we also suffer a lot and create toxic results not only in our relationships, but also in our health. We will not be able to have high level, uplifting, loving and harmonious relationships if we will not be able to make our mood work for us and not against us.
… In the eastern culture showing a bad mood is considered a weakness, as it is inability to master your lower self or ego. When we can’t master our lower self, we don’t have access to our Higher Self and so we are not able to build our divine fulfilling relationships with other people.
Susan Preston is one of the best Relationship coaches that I know personally and so often mentions about loving yourself, filling yourself up with love and so build a great relationship with yourself first. There is a lot of truth in this. I would say that whatever relationship you currently have is what you deserve, attract or create. I know it may sound harsh at first, but you will understand more and more how it works, once you work on yourself and grow emotionally and spiritually.
It is impossible to have low-level, painful relationship when you are at a ‘high level’ my friend. We attract what we are.The part what we don’t see often is so hidden in our subconscious mind that we think world is against us. However in reality we create a lot of pain and suffering by looking outside of us, when in reality we can uncover our blind spots by looking within.
So why mood is such an important topic and how can we become masters of it?
Mood is nothing more than an emotional state of mind, the important part is to take control over the emotions, so you will not have to hide the ‘bad’ mood as there will be nothing to hide 
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Let’s look at the 3 Secret Keys to become a Mood Master:
#1 Key: Own your mood.
Take full responsibility of your mood. When you stop blaming other people, circumstances, adversities for what happens to your mood, but only yourself
this will make you an owner of your mood. Once you own your MOOD, you will be also able to become the MASTER of it.
Every time from now on, see how you try to blame someone or something else about your bad mood. Once you will become aware that you are doing it, you
will also be able to turn it around.
#2 Key: Transform your mood.
You can transform everything from negative to positive. By letting light into a dark room, darkness becomes the light. We can do the same with our
mood. You already have this transformational ability within you and also know how to do it. Every time you feel you enter into a bad mood, at the very
beginning remind yourself about this amazing ability you have to transform from light to darkness or from negative to positive.
Just RISE ABOVE and look for things around you or in your memories that bring light to your mind and spirit.
When you do this feel the appreciation about those wonderful things.
It is important to catch the mood change at the very beginning.
As when we feel negative we start attracting more negative thoughts not only from ourselves but also from other people, and so later it is so much
harder to make the transformation.
#3 Key:Act as if you are in a good mood.
I know not every time acting helps as we would rather go deeper into the core of our bad mood and look for the reasons. But sometimes analyzing and wondering where this all comes from can create even more pain and we actually drown deeper into the sand…
when we can quickly become the actors and behave as we would have a great mood, it also takes our body into a state of confidence.
You can start the acting with this simple exercise to set your mood:
- Breathe in PEACE.
- Breathe out SMILE.
You can repeat it several times. When we recognize and think about peace, by breathing it in with intention we will start feeling peace within us, by breathing out with smile we will feel good. The facial muscles, which make us smile also work as good mood creators.
These 3 Secret keys will help you my friend to become a powerful mood master. Positive mood and mind is contagious, it is much more influential that
many, many negative minds.
So when you can be in a good mood no matter what you are not only changing your chemistry, charisma, magnetism and influence you also are healing the
world around you.
You will never be depended on other people moods, as you will be the master of your own and move to a better place each and every time. With practise
comes mastery.
Please for the next 21 days practise those 3 Secret Keys and I guaranty that you will not only feel but also see the change. This time is needed, as we
know new habits become permanent in 21 days. Please come back and let me and Susan know about your transformation.
You will know when you are the Mood Master; by noticing that other people’s bad mood doesn’t affect you anymore.
… I wanted to take this opportunity and thank my wonderful friend Susan Preston for inviting me to be her guest today. I know she is a masterful
Relationship Consultant you can trust.
Please you are also invited to visit my website at www.positivecalm.com
You deserve the BEST relationships my friend and never settle for less.
Now is your turn. Please share your thoughts, concerns or stories in the comment section below.
Let’s do this together!
Solvita Bennett
is sharing her wisdom with people from different backgrounds to find their Inner Peace and Happiness. With more than 20 years of study and practice of Personal Growth coupled with more than 10 years experience in professional teaching gives her the ability to share her ‘Secrets to Inner Peace’ in a Simple, Easy and Practical way. To learn more please visit www.positivecalm.com
About Susan PrestonSusan Preston is a Mindset Motivator & a Relationship Mentor. Susan can empower you to Master your Mindset and Ignite your Relationships by helping you to get the clarity to take your life and business to that next Amazing level. She brings a lifetime of experience to help you create that balance in every area of your life so that you are truly living your Dreams!
Are you having challenges with staying in the right mindset to grow your business? If you would like more help with this or if you are having challenges in any of your relationships, Susan would love to help. Click on the “Free Consultation” tab at the top of the page and Susan will give a free 30 minute consultation to answer any pressing questions that you may have to give you the clarity that you may need, in order to move in the right direction.
This is an awesome post. I love everything Solvita says here.
I’m single again after a divorce, and I’m reading a book called Calling in the One. It’s a book a few of my friends and I are reading together, in different phases, and it really digs deep into discovering who you are as a person and rooting out or accepting behaviors that keep you from attracting what it is that you want from life and love. It’s all connected. This advice is mature and pushes you to move in the right direction – or accept that you might not be ready to.
Thank you Lauryn,it is interesting about attraction, sometimes we attract people to prove a point and confirm our beliefs… let’s say you attracted a guy who is disrespectful towards you, as you had a strong belief that men are that way. Also we have to go through painful experiences as we need to learn and evolve, life puts you in a place when you have no chance left as master yourself to become a supreme person that you actually really are and so you start reading and looking for answers that will give you the TRUTH rather than appearances. and at the end of the day you will realize that you are the main player of YOUR life. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts ~ you are appreciated! <3
Solvita – great wisdom I am re-learning daily! I am a pretty easy-going person, and while I don’t get angry easily, I get frustrated or ‘stressed’ quite frequently (eh … three boys’ll do that to you!).
One of the easiest ways to damage your relationships is to blame others when the blame lies in yourself, and to let your own inability to love yourself affect those same relationships.
The problem is … it is SO easy to forget to take care of and love ourselves, especially if you life a highly-stressful life already. Great reminder to focus on our own actions and reactions before looking to others.
I can relate to you my friend, my son has special needs and for a long time I felt frustrated until I made a decision to let it be and enjoy every moment of his presence ~ no matter what. Life is funny at times and we are here to play, play with your wonderful boys..and don’t take it too seriously, take it light and playful. You have those boys for a reason they are your blessing in disguise ~ recognize it ~ own it~ enjoy it! Love x
Excellent post Solvita and a special thank-you to Susan for sharing it:) It is so true that we must look within ourselves for happiness. We can also control our moods and accept full responsibility for them. I always tell my children to turn the frowns upside down..they think I’m kooky but I refuse to live each day in misery…life is short and we must appreciate every waking moment. Thanks for sharing your wisdom Solvita:)
Thank you Daisy, Susan is wonderful to invite me to share with you some SECRETS! This is true looking within we can find the answers ~ life is so precious and we should enjoy it. We both appreciate you and your wonderful comment!
Great post Solvita. We let others dictate our moods so often, we even take on thier mood. Thanks for the reminder that we are the ones in control of our mood. Love your three steps.
Thank you Susan for sharing!
Absolutely ~ we can pick up their mood! Thank you so much for your comment Terressa ~ it is great to see you here!
Every day we have so many choices to make from the second we open our eyes we begin making choices. I love the mention here, “Once you own your MOOD, you will be also able to become the MASTER of it.” The time has come for us to own up to things rather than sitting on the side lines claiming something “just happened.”
Love your comment Kim ~The time has come for us to own up to things rather than sitting on the side lines claiming something “just happened.” This is what can let us down ~ we have to earn our place at the ‘table’
Thank you!
The energy of this collaboration is powerful and healing! Thank you for sharing it with us.
Solvita, what a beautiful and calming voice you have. I enjoyed the audio very much. thanks for that, too.
Finally, it is powerful medicine to understand that no one has power over our internal state. Habits of blame are hard to see and even harder to break. Your three practices are a very useful way to cultivate this ability.
Thank you, Lorrie. I agree, Solvita does have a beautiful calming voice. I love how you wrote, “it is powerful medicine to understand that no one has power over our internal state. Habits of blame are hard to see and even harder to break.” This is so true, and only when we understand that totally will things even begin to change in our lives. Owning it is huge.
Susan, thank you for publishing this article! Solvita – brilliant post. I agree – until we write it down, we don’t have a goal but only a wish! Thank you for sharing “How to Master Your Mood and Relationships…” with us!
I agree with you, Solvita wrote a brilliant post, Antastasiya! I am so honored that she wrote this to share here. Yes, writing it down takes it to the next level and makes it a goal. Thank you
I love the line “we attract what we are”. That stood out the most to me because it is so very true!! I see it with my sister. Thank you for sharing. Both of you are people that I’ve come to admire and love to follow!!
That line resonated with me as well, Mandy. I agree it is very true. We appreciate you stopping by, as well as for the beautiful comment. We appreciate you, thank you
Love to see you are guest blogging here for Susan! My favorite part of this article is this sentence…”You will never be depended on other people moods, as you will be the master of your own and move to a better place each and every time. With practice comes mastery.” So many times we get locked into what is going on with those around us and their mood affects us and how we operate within our own day to day lives. Owning your own moods and mastering them without outside influence is huge. Thanks for sharing!
You’re welcome, Kim! I was honored to have Solvita write an article and do the audio for me to share it here. I loved when you wrote, “Owning your own moods and mastering them without outside influence is huge.” That is so huge! Thank you. Enjoy, the rest of your week
Becoming a powerful mood master…love this, Solvita and Susan! Excellent points, so appreciate the audio, as well, for those of us who lean more to learning through listening! We do already have the transformational ability within us. Brilliant and thank you!
Thank you, Sherie. I was honored to have Solvita write this article and especially for her doing the audio, as well. I too, learn easier through listening then through reading. Yes, we do already have the transformational ability within us. Enjoy the rest of your day
Solvita and Susan,
What a delightful surprise! Two masters combining to give us something extraordinary. Love the videos as well as the post. I love to inhale Peace and exhale a smile. It feels very good! Susan thank you for inviting Solvita to share her beautiful thoughts as well as her beautiful voice. How lucky for all of us!
Thank you, Michele. I appreciate you. Yes, I would say we are all lucky to have Solvita share her beautiful voice and her article that is from her heart {hugs}
Solvita, this is another great article from you, and Susan, many thanks for sharing it with us. When we learn to control our emotions, and master our mood, inner peace is much easier to achieve.
Thanks, Rod I agree with you, this is another great article from Solvita. This is so true, “When we learn to control our emotions, and master our mood, inner peace is much easier to achieve.” Life certainly gets even more Amazing when we are at the core of our peace.
Love this…and I LOVE Solvita’s voice
Such a pleasure to listen to this post!
Thank you, Elise. I love Solvita’s voice, as well. Have a great afternoon
I loved this, Solvita! Too often we go into blame mode and not take accountability for our thoughts and behavior. These three keys are a great opportunity to learn how to shift a bad mood and reconnect with those around us. Thanks, Susan for hosting a top-notch blogger!
You’re welcome, Lisa. I agree that Solvita is a top-notch blogger, I am very blessed to have her as a guest. I agree with you on, “Too often we go into blame mode and not take accountability for our thoughts and behavior.” I am so glad that Solvita shows us how to change all of this. Thank you
Hey Susan, thanks for including the post from Solvita. You know what stood out the most from this post? The audio!! It’s so much easier to ‘listen’ to the words vs. ‘read’ the words sometimes. This was a perfect example. Definitely builds more of a deeper connection. =)
And loved the topic!
You’re welcome, Edmund. I agree, it is so much easier to listen to the words versus reading them. Solvita did a beautiful job with the audio, as her voice is so calming. Thanks
Wow, two of my favorite people in one place…Susan and Solvita! Great article and I love the fact that sometimes, if you just act as if you are in a better mood, you will in turn get into a better mood. I know that there have been times when I have had to just let go, breath and smile and honestly, that has made all the difference. Thanks for sharing! Loved the article!
Thank you, Jennifer. We appreciate you. Yes, I loved that as well, “I love the fact that sometimes, if you just act as if you are in a better mood, you will in turn get into a better mood.” I found that if I am in a bad mood, if I smile I can’t help but feel better, too.
what a great duo…both susan and solvita! i love the post–especially the peace/smile breathing exercise. i will definitely try that. in step #2 i also find that music helps put me in a good mood.
at work if i feel a bad mood coming on i’ll go for a quick walk to visit with someone i know will be positive..i climb up 4 flights of stairs and go seeking a smile…i’ll have to share the breathing exercise with her since we support each other when we’re feeling a bad mood coming on
thanks so much for this post!
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Thank you Isa, so great to see you here! Yes ~ music is wonderful to lift us up. It is great to have an uplifting music at hand so as soon as you feel the mood is changing, you can use it. You are so welcome and appreciated by both of us!
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I love this article because sometimes how we feel dictates who we are because we validate our feelings as being real. The truth is that everything has its place and its important that we put things in perspective so we can be who we want to be in our relationships.
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Thank you Beau, it is so important to put things into perspective as you say… and so we can be, who we really are. Our real self is full of joy, love and appreciation, if this is not what we feel, we are not being real. Thank you again for stopping by.
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Thank You Susan for inviting Solvita! You and Solvita are my favorite coaches and the impact of getting the energy from both of you are outstanding. I am also amazed of reading all the fantastic comments from all the YCD friends and got a feeling of belong to something bigger. This is a powerful mood changer in itself. It was also great to hear Solvita’s voice.
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Thank you Chriter for your kind works and we are honored to hear that Susan and I are your favorite coaches!
Yes ~ it is great to belong to something bigger, and finding connection with like minded people. It gives us so much energy and joy to interact and create! 
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I love the Mood Master!
This is great advice! I love the 21 days to a great mood and using the 3 steps.
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Thank you Nancy for your kind comment!
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Solvita and Susan, THANK YOU for this wonderful article! I find it packed with truth and easily applicable information some of which I need to apply now to remedy my current bad mood…lol…Breathing in peace, breating out a smile…breathing in peace, breathing out a smile…makes me laugh just doing it!
Thank you!
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This is the main purpose of the exercise Carl!! lol it is so funny when you do it! Thank you for stopping by, you always make me smile!
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I love listening to Solvita’s voice. But I what I love the most is how she came up having these 3 great keys to master our moods. Masterinf our moods will really help us find happiness, inner peace and to have a better relationship. I also admire you, Susan, for letting Solvita to be your guest and for sharing this wonderful article.
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You are so kind Lorii! These 3 keys came to me through my inspiration, I write when I am inspired and it just flows out of me, sometimes I even wonder myself where this all comes from. … The more I grow spiritually, the more I can share with others and I had to share this article for Susan, as I felt very strongly about it. Thank you Lorii and thank you Susan!
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Let’s forget all about body language, shall we? In my opinion (humble!) mood is what people pick up on first and what stays with them the longest. Mood forms the basis of their first impression. This advice (own it, transform it, use it) is very important to heed.
And this: “But sometimes analyzing and wondering where this all comes from can create even more pain and we actually drown deeper into the sand…” is the most common (again, for me) obstacle to watch out for.
Awesome article! Thank you!
Absolutely, Rob great point! Body language is so important. One could be saying one thing and their body language is saying something so different. It most certainly sets the tone as well. Thank you.
Awesome Solvita. No matter what happens you can always start your day over just by looking from a different perspective. Peace be with you.
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So true, Michael. Yet, some people forget that and continue to keep a certain perspective all day which may not be a positive one. Thank you
I love what you said about turning on a light in a dark room; notice how there is no “dark switch” that fills a room with darkness; there is always a light switch that, once flipped, changes the darkness to light. We hold that switch inside ourselves and it is always good to remember that, at any time, in any kind of dark mood, we can always turn that switch on. Acting is if” is a wonderful practice and no matter what, I can always find a small something that brings light to my heart – even if it is just a cup of warm coffee on a brutally cold morning. Thanks for these reminders
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You’re welcome, Rhonda! I love that part as well. I believe Solvita did a beautiful job of describing this. I am so grateful to have had her as a guest. Thank you
Love love love this article! I especially resonate with your third principle – to “Act As If” you’re in a better mood. This is something I used frequently when my kids were teens, and it transformed our relationships by helping me not constantly react to their moodiness. Now those same kids – now adults – say that they learned the “Act As If” principle and use it effectively as adults. So powerful!
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Thank you, Ronae! I loved that 3rd principle as well, it really makes a huge difference. That is huge in using it when dealing with teens, especially since their moods can change very quickly. We appreciate you stopping by
Susan and Solvita paired up together – wow – it doesn’t get much better than that! Thanks for another great article. I love the opening quote here. Truly, no one can spare us from the journey, and in the end we wouldn’t want them to anyway.
Your advice about acting like you are in a good mood is fantastic. I use that one sometimes and later in the day I’ll realize that I totally forgot about whatever was causing my mood to be ugly!
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Yes, I too loved that, “Truly, no one can spare us from the journey, and in the end we wouldn’t want them to anyway.” It really resonated with me, as that is how we grow. I have started to give gratitude even in the times of adversity, when I do, my journey takes me to places I only dreamed about. Thank you
Another great subject, great article, Solvita. Emotions are fickle so certainly not trustworthy. Gotta have some control!
Thanks for sharing.
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Your welcome, Norma. Yes, I agree with you, our emotions can be fickle, that is why I loved Solvita’s article & audio because she teaches us what to do with them. Thanks, for stopping by
Susan and Solvita, I wish that I had listen to this message earlier in the week. I had such a tough week with a very sick family member. I was so drained and let my happy thoughts shift to dread and sadness.
I love this and I am bookmarking to help me with this. Turning my sadness into a focus on self love and spreading joy despite what happens in my life was my journey this year. I believe every word of what you said here. You both have peace and joy radiating from your lovely faces… I feel honored to know you and call you friends!
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Thank you, Liz! We so appreciate you. We feel honored to know you and call you a friend, as well {hugs}
Great article, Susan. WOW – you are like being in my head. I a so emotional, like e kid…and owning my emotion and control is so hard!!! It cause me a lot of problems in my job and in relationship. Therefore, I believe I need a change!
Thank you, Anna. Yes, owning our emotions and controlling them can be challenging at times. I hope Solvita’s audio and article has helped you.
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